I DO NOT regret losing some people in my life, and given the chance to leave, where I left, I would do it again.

Think back to a time when you were young, you had a couple of friends in kindergarten, or primary school. Where are they now? If you kept those, that’s beautiful, what about High school /Varsity / ex- Work friends? Do you still talk to them? We lost most people along the way, I know I did. And our reasons may vary, the common denominator, is they’re not close anymore. My story is similar, besides losing common interests, shared environments and touch, I grew out of certain people.

I believe I’m a very patient and an altruistic person which annoys Bummy ( yes it’s Human person) , because it lets people take me for granted apparently. Growing up together, watching me hurt and hide from the world, burning myself to warm people who didn’t care was probably torturous for her. I wouldn’t fully understand what she saw. Whatever it was, it annoyed her to bits. But in my self exile and adopted pain, I kept a steady balance but it eroded my grasp of reality.

I remember cutting ties with this person who I believed had the best interests in heart for me. Turns out, behind my back I was dragged and labelled. Painted in dim light by someone I likened to family but I didn’t fight. I just left. And I think that’s the best way to deal with such people. Confronting them only gives them ammunition and justification grounds. And if you’re unfortunate, they will shift the blame to you and you’ll forever be bound to that toxic circle. In such experiences, I learnt that sometimes, being alone isn’t such a bad thing. I’m not saying I have no friends now, my support system is solid. After weeding out some acquaintances who overstayed their tenure.

You know what’s even crazier? Growing out of family members. You know that saying, ‘blood is thicker than water’ ?. Do you know what the original quote really means? I would say Google it but I’ll tell you.

(The) Blood (of the coven) is thicker than (the) water (of the womb)

Ergo, the original phrase has an opposite meaning to how we use it today (because we’re all liars) . In the original expression, it says the bond you make with friends and people like your partner is more important than family relationships. Which is what I subscribe to sometimes. Hurts to say but, some family members have become strangers in my eyes. Can you relate?

Then of course, relationships. How else would we have exs if we didn’t grow out of people and their behaviours. ( uhmm yeah). I’m not saying much on this. I’m glad I left some relationships and in those that I was left, I’m equally grateful. Looking back at some of the amazing ones, if they were meant to last they would have. But they didn’t. And I’ll keep the lessons and memories. And screenshots.

Cue the #cutpeople off messages. It’s that time.